Loss affects People in different ways.

It is not usual to experience.

Disbelief. Immediately after a death, it can be hard to accept what happened. Sometimes people try to deny it, feel numb or even shock, or expect to see their loved one even though they know the person is gone.

Guilt, it is normal to regret things you might have said or done, or failed to say or do.

Physical Problems. Grief can take its toll on your health, causing weight loss. Or gain. Anxiety, less ability to fight off diseases, extreme fatigue.

Fear. Death often causes people to face their own fears about dying, while others fear life without their loved one, or taking on new responsibilities.

Anger. Some people feel angry at their loved one for having “deserted” them. Some may feel angry about the unfairness of the death. Others might find the need to blame someone.

Grief Spasms. Many people have uneven emotions which seem to come and go, some days “feel good” while the next day or the next minute, and out of nowhere you feel intense sadness. This is normal even though some people feel they are “going crazy”

The four ‘tasks’ of mourning

  • Accept the reality of the loss.
  • Work through the pain of grief.
  • Adjust to the environment without the deceased.
  • Emotionally relocated the deceased and move on with life

To build resilience in the face of loss, remind yourself,  That you have survived loss, you do survive, and you will survive.